"Cancer is not a death sentence, it is a life sentence", said Mary
Mulcahy MD, my oncologist back in 2003. "It gives you an opportunity to plan the rest of your life." Such insight and clairvoyance is rarely expressed by anyone. I owe my life and much of my transformation to Mary.
In Sept. 2002 I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Overall statistics gave me a 1% chance of survival and with early detection perhaps a 15% chance. I enrolled in a clinical trial under the guidance of Mary
Mulcahy and Mark
Talamonte. By virtue of their skill and divine intervention I am alive today, 52 months after my diagnosis. I lead a normal life and try to remember each day to give thanks for my many blessings. There are objective and subjective lessons I have learned about dealing with cancer.
First the objective: If you have cancer get into a clinical trial; you will get the best doctors and the best programs. If you have cancer go to a center of excellence; there are specific university medical centers where they have a particular interest in a particular kind of cancer. If you have cancer go to a support group. The Pancreatic Cancer Action Network (
PanCan) is one of the best. So is the Gilda
Radner Foundation. Learn Yoga,
meditation, exercise, healthy eating. Find people who can relate to your life changing experience. Eat a steak every night and drink a glass of beer- no joke! This is the
Talamonte diet and it should not be forgotten. Do not dwell on
Internet sites like John's Hopkins site for pancreatic cancer which is full of pointless doom and gloom. None of us will live forever, so what's the beef. Experience gratitude in sharing the human experience with so many profoundly beautiful ancestors. Grieve only when you contemplate saying good-bye. Then find comfort in God's presence as your soul joins him, even if you don't believe in God or find the word offensive.
Now to the subjective: I listen better now. I empathize more. I have love in my heart and when I subject my
patients to ridicule or playful
put-downs such as if you don't like seeing a pimple on your face I could cut your head off, I do it with love and they laugh and are rarely offended. I thank God every day and if I don't, I apologize. I speak to cancer
patients and their families as often as I can and I thank them for allowing me to be a part of their lives at such an intimate moment. After you read this please call someone you know who has cancer. You can't bother them. They are living today for that- for everything. Tomorrow is only theoretical. You will both feel better for the experience. If I don't show up tomorrow, thank you all for allowing me to share.
Happy Holidays and Good Health!